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Global Solidarity Brings Hope to Families in Beit Jala

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By Kevin Prior, Chief Financial Officer.

For over 70 years, the Saint Vincent de Paul Society in Beit Jala has been a source of hope and support for families in their community. Founded in 1951 through the vision of Father Michael Karam, the Society has carried on the mission of St. Vincent de Paul to serve the poor with love, compassion, and dedication. Today, a team of nine volunteer board members continues this vital work, reaching out to those who need it most.

Life in Beit Jala is extremely challenging. Families face daily struggles due to conflict, rising costs, and limited access to healthcare. Children, the elderly, and people with chronic illnesses are especially vulnerable. Local Vincentian volunteers have been on the frontlines, identifying the most urgent needs:

  • 100 patients need medications for chronic conditions.
  • 150 families need basic food to feed their households.
  • 50 university students need support to continue their studies.
  • 50 school children need help covering tuition fees.

To meet these critical needs, a total of $60,000 is required.

As the National Council of the United States, we have been in regular contact with the Beit Jala Council and are proud to be actively supporting their work through an International Twinning grant of $60,000. The second installment of this grant is now helping local volunteers provide medications, food, and educational support to families carefully, safely, and with great dedication.

Despite challenges like supply delays and security concerns, the volunteers in Beit Jala continue to pour their hearts into this work, ensuring that every gift reaches those who need it most. Each delivery, each meal, and each school fee paid is a sign that these families are not alone and that the Vincentian spirit of love and care crosses oceans to reach them.

Thanks to your generosity and the power of international solidarity, families in Beit Jala receive not only life-sustaining support but also renewed hope.

 

International Twinning in the Spirit of Advent

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By Michael J. Nizankiewicz, Chair, U.S. Twinning Commission

Let me begin by wishing you a blessed Advent season and welcoming you to this second edition of the Twinning Newsletter. Advent is not only a time of anticipation as we prepare for the birth of our Lord, but also a season of caring and giving.

There are more than 155 National Councils within the Society of St. Vincent de Paul worldwide, and the vast majority do not have the resources necessary to adequately serve those in need in their respective countries. This reality calls us to reflect on how we are able to support our fellow Vincentians beyond our local communities.

As Valeria Vlasich, International Twinning Coordinator for the U.S. Council, recently shared in the Frédéric’s Five newsletter, the International Twinning Program is a powerful way for Conferences to connect with Vincentians across the world. Twinning is not simply a financial arrangement, but a relationship rooted in faith, prayer, and solidarity. Through correspondence, shared intentions, and mutual support, Conferences build meaningful partnerships that reflect the true spirit of St. Vincent de Paul.

Valeria also emphasized that participation in International Twinning allows Conferences in the United States to support vital works abroad, including food distribution, education, healthcare initiatives, and housing projects. At the same time, these relationships strengthen the global Vincentian network and offer members the opportunity to grow spiritually while witnessing God’s love at work in diverse cultural and social contexts.

During this Advent season, I invite you to reflect on your Conference or Council’s call to serve as part of our global Vincentian family. As we prepare our hearts for Christmas, consider whether there is an opportunity to extend your spirit of generosity through Twinning, particularly to Councils that have far fewer resources.

Valeria can help identify Councils that are in the greatest need of support and is available to answer any questions you may have.

If you would like to learn more about International Twinning, please contact Valeria Vlasich at vvlasich@svdpusa.org or call (314) 576-3993, extension 225.

 

Vincentians at the St. Vincent de Paul Chapel in Paris, France

September is a Month of Vincentian Celebration and Veneration

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September is a Month of Vincentian Celebration and Veneration

By Tim Williams, Senior Director of Formation & Leadership Development

Vincentians at the St. Vincent de Paul Chapel in Paris, FranceA feast is a celebration, and September marks two great celebrations for Vincentians – the Feast of St Vincent de Paul on September 27, and the Feast of Blessed Frédéric Ozanam which occurred on September 9.

Traditionally, the Feast Day assigned to the saints and blessed of our church is the anniversary of their death. Assuming them to be holy, we regard this day as the date of their rebirth into eternal life in union with the Creator. But this is not always the case, and for Vincentians, both Vincent and Frédéric Ozanam provide examples.

St. Vincent de Paul died on September 27, 1660 at the age of 79, and was canonized June 16, 1737. However, September 27 was already the feast day of Saints Cosmas and Damian, martyrs of the early church, and so Vincent’s feast day was declared to be July 19. In Frédéric Ozanam’s letters, he recounts visiting, along with other members, the Chapelle Saint-Vincent-de-Paul in 1836 where Vincent’s body had been brought in a silver reliquary in a great procession through Paris in April of 1830. In 1834, along with the other six founders of the Society, he visited the church in Clichy where Vincent had served as pastor in 1612, again to commemorate the July 19th feast day.

And it was on July 19, 1830, that the Blessed Virgin first appeared to St. Catherine Labouré in the chapel of the Motherhouse of the Daughters of Charity. She would return again to that chapel on November 27 and share the instructions for the Miraculous Medal, for which the chapel is now named.

By 1969, Saint Vincent had become a far more widely venerated saint in the Catholic Church, and the General Calendar was revised to move his feast day to September 27, where we celebrate it today. Frédéric Ozanam, however, is unlikely ever to have his feast day moved to his own date of rebirth.

Having spent much of his final year in declining health in Italy, Frédéric sensed in September of 1853 that his end was near.

“I am coming if you call me and I have no right to complain,” he wrote. “Were you to chain me to a bed during the remaining days of my life, these would not be enough for me to thank you for the days which I have lived. Ah, if these pages are the last which I shall write, may they be a hymn to your goodness. “

He asked his wife Amélie to arrange for them to travel, so that he could die in France. He never made it all the way to Paris, but died in Marseilles, France on September 8, 1853, at the age of 40.

September 8th was and is celebrated as the Feast of the Nativity of Mary, one of only three birthdays on the Roman Calendar, along with Jesus and John the Baptist. As widely venerated as Frédéric may one day become, he will never replace the Blessed Mother on this day, nor would he want to! (We might note, though, that his current feast day of September 9 is also the birthday of Blessed Rosalie Rendu.)

Last week, a group of 35 Vincentians from the United States, guided by Ralph Middlecamp and me, embarked on a Vincentian Pilgrimage to France. While there, we visited several of the places mentioned above: Chapelle Saint-Vincent-de-Paul, Église Saint-Médard in Clichy, the Chapel of the Miraculous Medal, and many more sites, including celebrating the Feast of Blessed Frédéric in the CGI office.

John Berry

08-21-25 A Letter From Our Servant Leaders

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Hope in Action: Serving the Poor Amid America’s Growing Housing and Homelessness Crisis

In neighborhoods across the United States, the simple dignity of home is slipping out of reach for millions. At any given time, over half a million Americans are homeless, with countless more living on the edge; couch-surfing, sheltering in motels, or fearing the next eviction notice. This isn’t just a crisis of statistics; it’s a daily reality for families, veterans, young people, and senior citizens. As the mission of the Society of St. Vincent de Paul calls us to grow in spirituality through service to the poor, we are called not just to recognize this crisis but to respond to it with mercy, love, and tangible action.

The Faces Behind the Crisis

Visit any city or small town, and the signs of homelessness are visible: tents beneath highways, “Help Needed” signs at intersections, families lining up at food banks, children living in uncertainty. Yet each person caught in the web of housing insecurity has a name, a story, and a soul loved by Christ. The causes are complex; soaring housing costs, stagnant wages, mental health challenges, addiction, and the lingering effects of the COVID-19 pandemic. But the call to respond is startlingly simple: We are invited to see, to serve, and to grow.

Catholic Social Teaching: The Preferential Option for the Poor

The words and actions of Jesus Christ leave us no doubt: “Whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me” (Matthew 25:40). In Catholic social teaching, the preferential option for the poor isn’t just a principle. it’s a commandment rooted in dignity, mercy, and solidarity.

Saint Mother Teresa, who dedicated her life to serving those abandoned by society, captured it best: “Each one of them is Jesus in disguise.” Whether it’s a family evicted from their home or a veteran living on the streets, our faith compels us to see Christ in the vulnerable. The Church teaches that true justice is measured by how the poor are treated.

Growing in Spirituality: Meeting Christ in the Margins

Service to the poor transforms not only those we help but also our own hearts. Volunteers often share that encounters with the homeless, whose possessions may fit in a backpack or a shopping cart, bring unexpected lessons in humility, gratitude, and faith. To sit with someone on a park bench, to serve a meal in a shelter, or to listen to a story of struggle is to enter a sacred space where God is powerfully present.

I recall a moment that moved me deeply while I serving at SVdP in Atlanta. As the CEO of SVdP Georgia I was visiting one of our Thrift Stores. I began helping a man find shoes in the store while I was there. He told me he used to own a construction company but lost everything because of medical bills. He had more hope than I did, even after all he’d been through. I recognized Christ in his perseverance, and I was a better person for having interacted with him.

Service, when rooted in love, is never a one-way street. As we accompany our neighbors facing homelessness, our own spirituality deepens. It becomes less about charity and more about solidarity, a shared journey toward wholeness.

Living Mercy Here and Now

While the enormity of the housing crisis can feel overwhelming, Vincentians and volunteers have always found creative and meaningful ways to answer the call. For many, serving in local shelters and food banks is an opportunity not just to provide necessities, but to build genuine relationships through listening and offering compassionate presence. Others become advocates for affordable housing, lending their voices to legislative efforts and supporting organizations dedicated to increasing access to safe homes. The simple act of assembling kits filled with essentials like hygiene items, socks, snacks, paired with words of encouragement can offer comfort and hope to those on the streets. Prayer vigils and community events bring awareness and spiritual support, while sharing skills through mentorship or job training programs empowers those striving for stability. By supporting families at risk of eviction and educating their communities about homelessness, we help transform compassion into action and engage people of all ages and abilities in works of mercy.

The Spiritual Discipline of Ongoing Mercy

It’s tempting to see service as something we “do”. A task to check off or a solution to implement. But Catholic social teaching insists that service is also about continual conversion. When we give of ourselves, we discover our own dependence on God and on others. We recognize the brokenness within ourselves and grow in humility. The discipline of mercy is ongoing: it lasts beyond one meal served or one shelter shift.

Saint Oscar Romero, martyred for defending the poor in El Salvador, said: “When we leave Mass, we ought to go forth as if we have just discovered a wonderful secret to share.” For Vincentians, the “secret” is Christ’s presence among the poor, and the invitation to encounter him through mercy, justice, and service.

Called to Action: Mercy That Transforms

As economic challenges, social divides, and uncertainty continue to affect communities across the United States, the call to serve is louder and more urgent than ever. Vincentians have a unique opportunity to be the hands and feet of Christ in a time of deep need. We are invited not only to relieve immediate suffering, but also to journey alongside our brothers and sisters, advocating for lasting solutions and growing ever deeper in faith.

Let us remember: every act of kindness, however small, is a gateway to transformation. Every face we encounter on the street, in shelters, and in the margins reflects the image of God. Our mission is not only to “help,” but to see, to listen, and to walk with. In so doing, we fulfill the Gospel’s deepest command and embrace the mystery of mercy in action.

A Prayerful Reflection for Volunteers

As we serve, let us ask Christ for eyes that recognize his presence in those who lack home and hope. May our hands be merciful, our hearts generous, and our spirits humble. Let every encounter remind us of our own dependence on God and inspire us to grow in love. And may the transformation we experience through serving our brothers and sisters deepen our commitment to justice and mercy, bringing the light of Christ’s compassion to our communities and our world.

Peace and God’s blessings,

John

One Society, One Mission: Walking with Our Lord of Mercy in Ecuador

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By Valeria Vlasich, International Twinning Coordinator

The needs of neighbors in California often involve rent, utilities and food assistance. But nothing prepared two Vincentians for what they found when they traveled to Ecuador in July. More than 30 percent of Ecuador’s population, after all, lives in extreme poverty.

Mike Hanika and Laurie O’Keefe of the St. Maximilian Kolbe Conference in Westlake Village, California, visited Rumiloma, a resource-limited community on the outskirts of Quito, Ecuador, to visit their new twinning partner: the Señor de la Misericordia Conference.

This journey was part of the SVdP International Twinning Program, which connects U.S. Conferences with Vincentians in countries where poverty is more severe and resources are scarce. What began as a financial partnership quickly became something much deeper: a shared mission of faith, compassion, and fraternity.

In Rumiloma, Vincentians and priests work together weekly to bring food, medicine, and spiritual care to over 8,000 people across eight parishes. Government clinics are often without supplies, so many families rely entirely on their faith communities for basic care.

The Westlake Village Conference began the Twinning Program relationship by providing ongoing financial support. These funds help provide essentials like food, clothing, and medicine. But during their visit, Mike and Laurie discovered that the most powerful gift was not financial, it was human presence and fraternal encounter.

“The visit of Mike and Laurie was unforgettable,” said Ximena Suntaxi, president of Señor de la Misericordia. “We received them with much love at our parish. They are wonderful and joyful people. Although Mike did not speak Spanish, Laurie helped us communicate perfectly. Their visit lifted our spirits.”

During their stay, Mike and Laurie visited two chapels in the higher areas of the community: San Antonio de Miranda and San Pedro de Balvina. Despite limited material conditions, they found communities filled with joy, faith, and hospitality. They were welcomed with music, gifts, hugs, and prayers and had the opportunity to share experiences with local Vincentians and learn more about their work firsthand.

The National Council of Ecuador also expressed deep gratitude for the Twinning Program:
“From our experience, we can say with profound gratitude that the Twinning Program has been a blessing. It has strengthened our charitable activities and reminded us we are not alone in this mission. This bond is not just economic or logistical, but a true gesture of fraternal love that brings the spirit of St. Vincent alive in our works.”

This visit demonstrated that the universal call to serve with love and dignity transcends languages, borders, and cultures. The Twinning Program is more than financial aid, it is a bridge of solidarity and hope connecting Vincentians across countries in a common mission to serve the poor.

Hope in the Midst of Conflict: Serving Families in Lebanon

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By Michael J. Nizankiewicz, Chair, U.S. Twinning Commission

The ongoing conflict in Lebanon is often overlooked by other wars in the region, but not by the Society of St. Vincent de Paul. Thanks to a $100,000 International Twinning grant by the SVdP National Council of the United States last year, approximately 1,200 families in urgent need were helped with humanitarian aid.

With these funds, the Council of Lebanon delivered immediate  assistance to families, including children, the elderly, and individuals with disabilities. Support included:

  • Food Parcels: Supplying essential nutrition for two months.
  • Hygiene Kits: Providing sanitary supplies to protect health and prevent disease.
  • Mattresses: Ensuring safe and comfortable sleeping arrangements.
  • Logistics and Volunteer Mobilization: Engaging local Vincentians to distribute aid safely and efficiently to the most vulnerable communities.

The payments were made in four installments, and the Council of Lebanon has consistently provided detailed reports confirming receipt of the funds and outlining how they were used to serve their communities.

Despite challenges such as overwhelming demand, supply chain delays, and security concerns, the Council of Lebanon worked diligently to stretch every dollar and maximize impact.

We are deeply grateful for their commitment, transparency, and tireless service to those most vulnerable. Below are some of the photos they shared, offering a glimpse into the lives touched by your generosity.

This project is a testament to the power of international solidarity and the living spirit of Twinning. Thanks to your generosity, families in Lebanon have received life-sustaining aid and renewed hope in the midst of conflict.

 

How SVdP helps the vulnerable beat the summer heat

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How SVdP helps the vulnerable beat the summer heat

Accompanying the poor doesn’t slow down in the summer – in fact, like the temperatures, the Society of St. Vincent de Paul’s efforts to help those in need heats up.

Across the country, Vincentians utilize innovative ways to be present to those who suffer most from the brutal summer heat. These can range from direct one-on-one care to highly innovative community-supported programs.

These efforts are part of the Vincentian mission to meet the manifestations of poverty and homelessness with innovation, persistence and love and to see the face of Christ in each person they serve. The need has reached new heights, as 2024 saw the highest number of people experiencing homelessness person in any given night – 771,480, or 23 of every 10,000 people.

“In extreme heat, access to cold water, air conditioning, or cooling centers isn’t a luxury—it’s a lifeline,” said Stephen Uram, National Director of Poverty Programs for SVdP USA. “For our neighbors experiencing homelessness or hardship, the Society of St. Vincent de Paul is often their only source of relief. As temperatures rise, so does the urgency to respond with compassion and care.”

Three Councils from one of the country’s largest Catholic lay organizations, serving an average of 5 million people a year, showcase examples of both the inventiveness and consistent presence of Vincentians wherever the need exists.

Phoenix

Being the face of Christ and seeing the face of Christ amidst 120-degree temperatures has been a life’s calling for more than a decade for Joseph Yanez. He leads the effort for SVdP Phoenix’s Celebrity Fight Night water truck.

“The idea was to hydrate individuals out in the community, in encampments, in abandoned houses, alleys, in the river beds,” said Yanez.

It has become far more, an across-the-board donation program for people in one of America’s hottest metropolitan areas.

“We do hygiene kits. It consists of everything you could possibly need right now in the element of heat, chapstick, sunscreen, caps, socks, toothbrushes, soap,” said Yanez. “Then comes the clothing, gently used, shoes, shirts, pants.”

Yanez says people consistently step up to empower his council in meeting those critical needs, so much so that his teams have 25 delivery and drop-off routes throughout the Valley of the Sun.

“I’ve got schools, preschools, that call me up and say, ‘Can you pick up this leftover food?’” the selfless Yanez says.

Northern Kentucky

For more than 25 years, SVdP Northern Kentucky has responded to extreme temperatures with a kind of summer heat donation program that most charities don’t necessarily offer: Free air conditioners.

“When the heat and humidity hits, it can be a struggle, especially if you have a chronic medical condition that you’re trying to manage,” said Karen Zenge, the executive director of the Council located just south of Cincinnati.

“It’s called the social determinants of health. Providing air conditioning, providing relief from the heat and humidity, allows you to breathe better. If you can breathe better, you can be healthier.”

They partner with Saint Elizabeth Healthcare, a local medical provider, to offer hundreds of free air conditioners and fans per year to those in critical need.

They usually go pretty quickly.

“We ran out two weeks ago, during the hottest week of the summer where people really needed it,” she said, adding that Arlinghaus Plumbing, Heating and Air Conditioning found out about their dramatic need.

“They saw that post, reached out and said ‘We have $5,000 that we can contribute. How many fans and ACs can that get you?’ We were able to get another 150 units.”

“I belong to many families, including Saint Vincent de Paul. I’m the type of guy that if you need help…at the drop of the dime, I’ll be there. We practice what we preach.”

Belleville, Illinois

“We are a ministry that’s open 365 days a year,” says Belleville District Council Executive Director Pat Hogrebe. “We never close.”

SVdP Belleville serves several areas including the often-underserved citizens of East St. Louis. Vincentians there enter into what she calls a “constant battle” to keep people safe during the summer, beyond meals and water.

“You might think about people that are in their homes, but they are at risk because their utility bills are so high. Today I had a young lady have [power] disconnected. If we didn’t do something, she’d have been turned off, someone with little kids that’s in a house without power. We prevented the utility from getting turned off,” she said.

“It’s all a labor of love.”

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To learn about more ways Vincentians serve the most vulnerable year round, along with how you can join the mission, visit www.svdpusa.org.

Michael Acaldo

8-14-25 A Letter From Our Servant Leaders

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My Most Memorable National Assembly

Over the last 36 years, I have always looked forward to our National Assembly. As you can imagine, I have countless special memories from these gatherings.

One might assume my most memorable Assembly was just last year in Phoenix, when Archbishop Bellisario installed me as National CEO. The Diocesan Council of Phoenix hosted a phenomenal meeting, and I carry many wonderful memories from that week.

Others might guess it was my first Assembly in 1990 in Buffalo, where Vincentians — along with my colleague Mark Zirnheld — organized a truly memorable event. I even had the chance to see Niagara Falls for the first time. That meeting was filled with new friendships and marked the start of my Vincentian journey of spiritual growth.

Some of you who know me best might suspect my favorite was in 2022 in Baltimore, organized by my dear friend John Schiavone, the longest-serving executive in the country. With its theme of Coming to the Water, the Archdiocesan Council of Baltimore gave us another unforgettable gathering.

The truth is, all the National Assemblies I have attended hold priceless memories.
But my most memorable Assembly was the one I never attended.

As we approach the 20th anniversary of Hurricane Katrina, it’s no surprise why I missed the 2005 National Assembly in Chicago.

I had never been to Chicago before, and I couldn’t wait to see my Vincentian friends. Our Council President and I planned to travel on August 30, but there was a hurricane rumbling in the Gulf of Mexico.

As Hurricane Katrina approached the Louisiana coast, the forecast was one of absolute devastation, so across the Gulf Coast we were in deep prayer.

When it made landfall on August 29, the initial winds in New Orleans seemed lighter than expected, and we thought the city had been spared. But the water kept rising. As hours passed, those who had not evacuated faced growing danger.

Our Vincentian brothers and sisters in New Orleans were forced to evacuate to towns throughout Louisiana, Texas, and beyond.

In Baton Rouge, we saw a tidal wave of people in need heading to our little city. We prayed—and then we acted. The Society became a bright light of hope for those who had lost everything.

Vincentians leaders in Baton Rouge started getting calls from National President Gene Smith, National CEO Roger Playwin, and many others.  Those calls and prayers meant so much to us and energized us.  We felt confident to respond because we knew that Vincentians across the country were with us in prayer and support.

Our conferences mobilized immediately.

Our thrift stores became hands of compassion by providing clothes and shoes to adults and children that showed up with nothing but the clothes they had on.  Supplies never ran out as semi-trucks full of items came in every day.

The semi-trucks also rolled into our parking lot Dining Room with food and supplies.  Our volunteers and staff got to cooking nonstop to feed all those who were hungry.

Our emergency shelters responded to those that couldn’t get into hotel rooms.

Our pharmacy filled life-sustaining prescriptions for evacuees that forgot their medicine behind.

One day, Ralph Middlecamp – then Executive Director in Madison – called to check in. After hearing about the challenges, he suggested to Gene Smith that I report to the National Business Meeting.

I was blessed with the opportunity to address the National Council by phone and let our national leaders know what was happening on the ground and how Vincentians were making a difference.

Shortly after the Assembly Gene Smith came to Louisiana to visit us on the ground to see how we were responding to this historic disaster.  He and the National Council provided support of our efforts.

I treasure every Assembly I’ve attended. Each year, our gathering brings our mission to life: growing together in holiness and friendship.

As Vincentians, we respond daily—sometimes to a family facing eviction, sometimes to a widespread disaster like a flood, wildfire, tornado, or hurricane. No matter the scale, we are united in our Vincentian charism, bringing Christ’s light of hope to those in need.

That is why these Assemblies are so vital—we need each other.

If you’ve already registered for this year’s Assembly, I look forward to seeing you. If you haven’t yet, please consider it. David Neill and the Louisville Archdiocesan Council have planned a wonderful gathering, sure to be full of priceless memories. Most importantly, you’ll forge new spiritual friendships and strengthen the ones you already have.

Best wishes in Christ,
Michael

CPMC Podcast: Ordinary Catholics can step into advocacy for justice

CPMC Podcast: Ordinary Catholics can step into advocacy for justice 2048 2048 SVDP USA

Ingrid Delgado, National Director of Public Policy and Advocacy, explains how ordinary Catholics can step into advocacy for justice and the dignity of all people

Join Catholic Prison Ministries Coalition for a timely podcast conversation with Ingrid Delgado, National Director of Public Policy and Advocacy at the Society of St. Vincent de Paul USA, who explains how ordinary Catholics can step into advocacy for justice and the dignity of all people. This is especially important during this August congressional recess when our elected officials are back home in their districts, listening to constituents.

Listen on Spotify here or Listen on Kajabi here. 

John Berry

08-07-25 A Letter From Our Servant Leaders

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Finding Joy in the Chaos of Service (and Life)

I was blessed to grow up in a community filled with friends, neighbors, and classmates from diverse ethnic, religious, and cultural backgrounds. Our tight-knit circle of school friends, many of whom I still keep in touch with, spent countless hours in each other’s homes, celebrating holidays and special moments together.

I attended my Jewish friends’ Bar Mitzvahs and shared Seder meals at their homes; they joined us for Christmas dinners and came to our Confirmations. It was a joyous way to grow up. We were all beach kids, growing up on the ocean, and our common bond was the water. Whether it was surfing, swimming, or late-night beach parties, we forged lifelong friendships.

My closest friend was Jewish. His parents were immigrants from Germany, and I still remember an expression his mother used to say when we’d start dreaming out loud about our future plans (which, of course, mostly involved becoming rock stars, world-champion surfers, or lifelong beach bums). With love and a knowing smile, she’d say: “Der mentsh trakht un Got lakht,” Man plans, and God laughs.”

The Punchline of the Universe

Many of you have probably heard that expression before, though perhaps not in its original Yiddish. It’s one of those rare proverbs that manages to be both deeply philosophical and a perfect punchline when life throws a pie into your meticulously laid plans.

You might hear this phrase from grandmothers, spiritual sages, or anyone who’s ever had a Monday. But its power lies not just in charm or self-deprecation. It speaks to a universal truth: no matter our intentions, life retains the right to improvise.

We map out our days, plan years in advance, and read books titled Things Fall Apart, assuming, of course, that our particular things will not. Then, the universe, with the comedic timing of a late-night writer, throws in a snowstorm, a flat tire, or a missing cat just to keep us humble.

But this isn’t cruel. The laughter in “God laughs” isn’t the cackle of an omnipotent prankster. It’s the loving chuckle of a parent watching their toddler plot a path to the cookie jar, completely forgetting the laws of physics (and the family dog). It’s a cosmic inside joke and an invitation to loosen up and remember even the best-laid plans are subject to rerouting, revision, and reruns.

Plans Meet Real Life: The Volunteer Edition

Nowhere does this proverb’s wry wisdom hit harder than in the world of volunteer work.

You arrive, eyes shining, plans in hand, ready to fix every woe in a single afternoon. You’ve got a PowerPoint titled Operation Soup for the Soul, color-coded schedules, and an uplifting playlist queued up. Five minutes in, the oven rebels, toddlers outnumber adults three to one, and nobody can find the ladle.

The universe (and, perhaps, God) chuckles gently, tossing in a dash more chaos to your recipe for good.

And yet, and here’s the twist, magic sneaks in through the cracks. The moments you remember aren’t the ones you scheduled, but the laughter during dishwashing, the surprise carrot-chopping talents of a retired dentist, and the mysterious appearance of twelve extra cakes.

Your plan wasn’t the plot. And that’s where the gold is.

The Hero Complex Gets a Reality Check

You’ve probably heard of the “hero complex,” that well-meaning urge to swoop in, fix everything, and earn a modest (or resounding) round of applause. The heart is in the right place, but the ego is riding shotgun.

You rush forward, cape flapping (even if only in your imagination), determined to “save” the community, cure all injustice, and be remembered in stories, preferably with inspiring background music.

But here’s the kicker: reality, like God, has a wicked sense of humor. The hero complex can quickly morph into overconfidence or tone-deafness. You plan to “lift” a community, only to find it already has its own plans, and, more often than not, already built the ladders.

“Der mentsh trakht un Got lakht” pops the ego-balloon before it floats too far. It reminds those of us prone to heroism: don’t assume you’re the protagonist. Ask instead: “What do you really need?” and “How can I help without making this about me?”

That shift from control to curiosity reveals the true spirit of service. The best stories rarely star us alone. They emerge when everyone has a voice when we serve with, not above, others.

Laughing with the Divine

One of the secret gifts of this Yiddish proverb is permission to laugh at yourself, at the universe, and at the micro-dramas that unfold in every charitable kitchen, food pantry, or fundraiser.

Jewish humor, forged through centuries of resilience, finds its strength in irony, self-effacement, and the ability to smile in the face of absurdity. That spirit is contagious. Those who can laugh when the soup burns, the flyers multiply inexplicably, or the event flops gloriously are the ones who recover, adapt, and build true community.

There’s liberation in this laughter. It frees us from perfectionism and opens the door to creativity. Sometimes the failed event becomes the beloved tradition. Sometimes the missed connection becomes a lifelong friendship. And sometimes, busted plans and quick recoveries turn out to be the best team-building activity ever invented.

Planning with Open Hands

So, the paradox is: “Man plans, and God laughs” doesn’t mean we shouldn’t plan. We should. Plans are useful. Intentions are meaningful. Structure helps.

But clinging too tightly to a plan, bristling at every deviation, (you know who you are) is a surefire way to miss out on the richer, more joyful surprises that come when we let life breathe.

Instead, approach service with ambition and agility. Shoot for the stars, but pack hiking boots and a sandwich just in case the road is actually a roundabout, and the stars are hiding behind a cloud.

What does this look like in practice?

Be prepared, but open-minded. Show up ready, but expect the unexpected, and when your plan falls apart, look for what’s trying to break through.

Perhaps the deepest lesson isn’t that we shouldn’t plan but that we should hold our plans with both commitment and curiosity. In volunteering, this means centering the community’s voice, respecting lived experience, and remembering that partnership always beats paternalism. Some of your greatest contributions might be the ones you never saw coming.

The Invitation to a Better Story

So, by all means, lay out your plans. Bring your best intentions. Leap into service with enthusiasm.

Just don’t be surprised when things go sideways. And if the universe winks, or bursts into laughter, don’t insist on being the straight man in life’s ongoing improv.

Chase your big ideas. But welcome the plot twists. Laugh with the divine, with your neighbors, and most of all with yourself.

Because sometimes, plans falling apart isn’t the joke. It’s the invitation to an even better story.

Oh, and by the way, I still think I would’ve been one heck of a professional surfer. (Cue God chuckling.)

– Peace and God’s blessings,  John